We all have friends whatever the number represents, isn’t it? About numbers anyone can say ;
“I have only 1 friend in my life”
“I’ve lots of friends and among them some are really good friends, some are my best friends and some are my best bed mates…”
As I said earlier numbers are not important for any of us. What matters to us are the following questions
Who are my real best friends of mine?
The answer you should know already. But before choosing this answer please keep asking twice, are you really making the right choice?
British anthropologist Robin Dunbar proposed a number for on average personnel can maintain around 150 stable social relationships with each other. This number is called Dunbar’s numbers nowadays.
It is not mean that 150 personnel would be your friend or best friend or whatever you like to say. In the era of social media and the internet, we all do have tons of friends and tons of people to interact with all the time. We often meet with new people as we go through life. But whenever we think about or talk about proper friends; people we can have a meaningful relationship with, share odds and success confidently and get back all kinds of support during need. The number gets lower to zero from 150 or even more.
We don’t even notice it happening when our best friends get away from our life and we don’t recognize when the new best mate replaces the one we really want to have forever. Actually, it is very natural to us and the way we things are. We often move in and out of each other’s lives and that’s the way it is. As per Mr. Richard Templar
The more everyone moves around, the more fluid friendship groups can become.
Why is this happening? the simple answer is people are now moving faster than earlier ages. We are not living in only one village or community. We often move from here and there. That is why we have new faces around us and new relationships.
This sounds sad, but the reason for it is that new people are becoming important to you and giving you the support, fun, and company that you need. And the same thing is happening for the people dropping quietly off the bottom of your friend list. So it’s OK. In fact, it’s a good thing. There are always new friends waiting up ahead. So work to keep the friends that you really want to hang on to, but don’t feel bad when others drift away from you.
Please make a note for onwards-
Friends come and go
This writing was inspired by the book “The Rules to Break” written by Richard Templar. Some words are from his written as well to get organized this post.